E219: Busy Life? This One Mistake Is Making Your Overwhelm, Exhaustion, And PMS Worse (And You Can Fix It)

Why does it feel like no matter how much you do, it’s never enough, and you just keep getting more exhausted?

You’re holding everything together: the kids, the house, the meals, the work. On the outside, it might even look like you have it all together. But inside? You’re crumbling. You’re irritable, worn out, snapping at everyone, and the week before your period, it all feels even worse.

In this episode, I’m sharing the biggest mistake I see moms making, and why piling on more supplements, more routines, more self-imposed “fixes” is actually making your burnout worse.

I’ll teach you:

• Why your constant overwhelm and PMS have less to do with willpower, and more to do with how your body is stuck in stress mode
• How your pace, stress hormones, and unrealistic expectations drain your minerals, gut, and hormones
• What it really takes to create calm, clarity, and capacity again, without adding more to your plate

If you’re tired of feeling like you’re failing at a life you thought you wanted, this episode will help you finally understand what’s keeping you stuck AND what you can do to feel like yourself again.

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Transcript

[00:00:00] Leisha: Today, I'm going deep into the biggest mistake I see all of us making that is keeping us in overwhelm, exhaustion, and. PMS mood swings as moms, and this is something you can fix.

If you're feeling constantly overwhelmed. Annoyed, fatigued, and then you get to the week of your period or the week before your period, and it's just worse. There is something that I see happening in most cases when I talk to my friends, when I talk to my clients, and we're just gonna get into it today because even if with a busy life, even with a busy schedule, you can have peace, you can have stable moods, and there's something that you are doing that is causing you.

To be stuck in that cycle of overwhelm and fatigue and being annoyed and irritable and you can fix it. So let's talk about that today. When we are looking at overwhelm and fatigue and mood swings, there are so many layers to it, right? Layers like your. Minerals, your hormones, your stress.

But when we look at it from more of a surface level, there's a lot to even that surface level of what is going on in your life and especially. When you are feeling this overwhelm because your schedule is busy, then it really overflows that surface level overflows into every other area of your life.

And what I find is actually this. Overflows into our hormones specifically. And the way that it does is because we are used to living this really busy life. We're used to being high achieving, high functioning people who can get stuff done and. Usually get it done pretty well, right? Even if you feel scattered, even if you're going a hundred miles an hour in a hundred different directions, like a literal tornado, like you're picking up the pieces as you go and making it happen.

But at some point it really stops feeling good and it starts feeling stressy and overwhelming. And that may be some point, in years, like over a few years, or it could be every single month there's a point. Where it feels good and you're on it and you've got your life together, and then a point where your tornado starts falling apart and just tearing stuff up,

When we're looking at this. And we're looking at how you're handling your hormones in that situation. You're the one who is taking all the supplements. You are trying a hundred different things. You're taking a hundred different things. You have taken a hundred different things. If you're not currently right now, you've done so much research, you have.

Done the actual research, read some really solid books, listened to some audio books, listened to some really good in depth podcasts or YouTube videos. But you've also done the tiktoks and the Instagrams which can also be good. And you've purchased courses. You go to the chiropractor you have done all the different things, and you're still not feeling where you want to with energy fatigue, overwhelm.

Moods. The way to fix it always seems to be, do more supplements, do more podcasts, do more carrot salad, do more restrictive diet. Do macros instead, right? There's always some sort of fix and some sort of solution. And you're also still living your life, you're still taking the kids to all the things.

You're working, you have a business, you're keeping the house together, you're checking all the boxes. And on the surface it looks really good. everyone would be like, oh yeah, she's a girl who has it together. She's doing the things. Her kids are pretty happy. Her marriage looks pretty good.

Her house is pretty clean when you go by. she seems to have it together. She seems like she can do everything and on the inside you're crumbling. Sometimes, right? Not all the time, but sometimes you're crumbling and you're getting to the weekend and you're feeling so much less social than you want to.

You're exhausted. Your husband comes home at the end of the day or the end of the week and you're irritable and you're sitting there at your dinner in the life that you've always thought you wanted, and you're just like not feeling it. You're annoyed, you're irritable. They keep getting up. Like why can't they just stay at the table for dinner?

Why can't they just get ready for bed faster? Why can't they clean up after themselves? These are the thoughts that you're having. And then the next thoughts are guilt and shame of like, what in the world? This is what I wanted. Of course it's not perfect, but this is what I wanted.

I love these people and yet when I have a chance to be present with them, I'm just irritated. Often, not every time, but often. And then you have those layers of guilt and shame that are keeping you irritated and keeping you grounded in that, where it's just like, why can't I do this? why can't I do better?

When. You look back and you're like, okay, this is how I lived my day and I don't want to, then it's another to-do list. It's like, okay, well if I'm getting irritable at dinner, then I need to change dinner time. I need to change the way we're doing it. Or I need to have these things done ahead of time, or I need to take a CBD gummy at dinner time, or I need to make sure tomorrow that I get X, Y, Z done in a certain order so it can be better so that I have more time at bedtime to be the fun mom that I wanna be.

But the truth is. You're still just burned out. This is what the root causes is burnout. And I'm gonna be really honest with you, and I'm sorry, but it's like it's you. You're doing it to yourself. And I can speak this from a deep place of understanding because I do and have done this to myself as well, and that's why I know.

How important it's to see that. So you are doing this to yourself, and I'll tell you how and why and what we can do about it. When you are constantly overwhelmed, stressed, burned out, or even just most of the time right, because we ovulate. So we feel pretty good about that during that week, most of the time you're feeling that way.

And it feels like it often comes crashing down where you're like, what in the world? I'm not having fun. I'm not joyful. I'm not showing up as the fun wife. Let's get into that for a minute. how does that feel to know that you, again, like in most cases you have a marriage that is what you wanted, you wanted to be married, you still love your husband and.

You're not fun. You're not as fun as you used to be. You're not having fun with him like you want to. Most of the time. Maybe you pull it out here and there and you're like, oh yeah, there she is. Okay, good. But most of the time, by the time the kids are in bed, by the time he gets home from work, you mostly just wanna go take a bath, take a walk by yourself, read a book, have someone not need you and just leave you alone.

But really. Having the energy and , intentionality to invest in your marriage At the end of the day, you're like, I could, but I'm worn out. I'm burned out. I don't have a lot left to give. That sucks to feel that way. It really does.

And where you're doing it to yourself. Comes from a such a good place, such good intentions, but you are constantly thinking that you are the answer. You doing more is the answer to fix the problem. Just sit with that for a minute. Is that true? Does that hit you in the soul? Because if it does, if you doing more is always the answer to something being fixed, no wonder you're burned out.

Because if you're already tired and then you're like, Hey, I am almost under water. I think I should see if I could carry two more five pound weights while I swim. Eventually you can't. Eventually you're going under. And everybody's going with you. And that is not the way that you want to live your life.

And when we look at that from a hormonal perspective, what that looks like is cortisol all over the place, maybe high, maybe low. Your adrenal's can't keep up with you, your thyroid can't keep up with you, your estrogen and progesterone. Don't even try to keep up with you because your body's like, what actually are you doing?

You cannot do all the things you want to do. And these unrealistic expectations that we place on ourselves are keeping us stuck and drowning. When we're stuck in drowning, we want to be happy, we wanna be patient, we wanna be joyful, we wanna be energetic. But we can't do it because the only way we figure out to do that is by doing more.

Doing better, right? Instead of taking a look at the whole picture, the whole environment, and getting answers on what you personally need to change to cut the burnout and the overwhelm. So that your body has the energy that it needs to start doing the actually required things again versus all the things that are unrealistic.

 Sometimes this comes from a really big audit of your schedule, but it can also come from. This place where you are running on stress hormones this is typically where this cycle starts, is you are addicted to stress hormones. You are addicted to adrenaline. You are addicted to almost like this feeling of going so fast and your body has gotten used to it until it no longer can get used to it.

The fix to this is number one, realization that it's happening, and then number two, being able to start plugging the holes in the bathtub of your life. Okay, stick with me on this. Like you're a bathtub, there's holes everywhere, and all you're doing is trying to throw water at it faster,

you're just like, okay. This bathtub has holes, but if I just pour more and more water in it, maybe I won't run out of water. But the second you stop pouring water in, you're outta water because there's holes. Instead of throwing more at it, throwing more supplements, more adrenal support, more nervous system work more, me time, whatever it is that you're like, okay, well this will fix it, but we haven't addressed the root cause, which is the holes in your bathtub, the pace that you're trying to keep and the way that it's affected your body, which is your minerals are burned out. Your adrenals really need support. In turn, because your adrenals are stressed, your gut is stressed, your liver is stressed, your sex hormones are stressed, which leads to.

Moody Mama PMS mood swings. It leads to painful periods. It leads to fatigue, it leads to gut issues. It leads to all of these things that we talk about all the time. But the root cause is not only the pace that you've kept, it is that and the effects that it has on your body now, because when you're emotionally and physically burned out, you have to.

Plug some of the holes in the bathtub before you can move forward with even figuring out how to slow down the pace or figure out the life, right? Because you don't have the mental capacity to do that until you've got something to go on until your bathtub is plugged up enough that some water stays in it so that you have something to go on, essentially.

I don't know why water in the bathtub would be something to go on. I'm being really honest. My analogy. In that way doesn't work. But I think you know where I'm going with this. Okay. With that being said, I see this all the time and I also see this reverse all the time when there's awareness around it.

And what I firmly believe is the answer and what I see is the answer is starting to really. Refill your cup, refill your bathtub, where you have energy again, where you have minerals in your body again, where you are starting to be nourished, and it all comes back to creating safety in your body so that you are not.

Addicted to those stress hormones anymore, and you're not just piling more and more on your plate all the time, you're actually taking things off your plate. Even when we're talking about your hormone health, we can create healthy hormones, healthy adrenals. Create safety in the body so that you can make and detox hormones well without adding tons to your plate.

I know that may feel very counterintuitive with the life that you've been living, but it's absolutely possible, and that's exactly why I work with women. The way that I do and nourish your hormones is so that we can balance your hormones and create safety in your body in the most simple way possible.

We don't have to make it fancy. We just do the minimum effective dose to start to move the needle in the right direction, where instead of feeling crazy, overwhelmed, and burned out, you're like, oh, I have a little more energy than I thought I did. So now I can think a little more clearly, and maybe I'm not saying yes out of this desperate.

A burned out place. Maybe I have a little more clarity around what I wanna say yes to. When I see my clients work through the program and they start to be more nourished, they not only have more energy, but they have so much more capacity to actually be the mom that they wanna be. They have capacity for joy again, because they're not just truly dragging themself through the day.

They're not dreading. What they have to show up for because they have enough capacity to figure out what they actually want. If you were to sit and ask yourself right now what do I want? Is it actually clear what you want? Or is it like I just don't wanna live like this? Or is it like, I just don't want to like I just wanna feel better.

I know you wanna feel better, but what does that actually mean? Does that mean you want happiness, patience, joy? Does that mean you want to get up in the morning and have enough energy that you can be excited about your day? Those things are all absolutely possible, and exactly what we work on, is those foundations to.

Stop the cycles, create the safety so that you have a place to start that isn't coming from burnout. I would love to talk to you about this personally so that you can hear whether or not it's right for you. You can book a call with me in the show notes. The link is always right there. Come join us in nourish your hormones because the community there will get you.

We get you, we are, you, we understand what it's like to wanna be such a badass, to be honest. Like you do. You wanna do all the things. You wanna be the best wife, the best mom, the best, whatever other titles you have in your life, and the burnout that you have comes from such a good place because you want the best, but you're wearing yourself out doing it, and you actually don't have to.

You don't have to wear yourself out to have the life that you want. It's so possible when we get through these layers of adrenal and mineral and gut and hormone imbalance, it's so much easier to just be able to do the things that you wanna do and to feel stable, to have the joy and the presence that you want to have.

And so I just wanna encourage you with that. I can't wait to talk to you and I can't wait to see you and nourish your hormones and help you actually get the results that you want this time.